The Life Council

January 30, 2023
10 Things to Tell You podcast host Tremaine (Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First) takes a perceptive look at female friendship in this bright offering. Popular culture tends to prize romantic relationships, but friendship is “a cornerstone of our health and happiness,” argues Tremaine, who here maps out a “Life Council” framework that calls for a balanced, diverse mix of companions and confidantes. Just as effective advisory boards are comprised of members with different perspectives, each friend brings unique value to one’s Life Council: the Daily Duty friend “doesn’t pause in speaking as she tiptoes around the toys and laundry” littering the floor; the Battle Buddy can uniquely understand a shared struggle; and the Old Friend, who’s witnessed bad haircuts and formative life moments, provides the comfort of knowing one’s “past iterations.” Also important is the “Yes Friend,” who’s most likely to accept plans, and the “Business Bestie,” to provide support at work. The author wraps up with guidance for cultivating healthy friendships (drawing boundaries, sharing difficult emotions) and navigating pain points (drifting apart, money imbalances). Tremaine’s exploration of adult friendship is nuanced yet practical, and she’s honest about her own friend-related foibles, including failures to communicate and see others’ perspectives. This will resonate with women who value their allies and acquaintances alike.